Don’t you just hate it? You know, when you’ve got more to deal with than any human being has the patience for. It doesn’t take much for things to pile up beyond comprehension. The result? We stress out. A lot.

We allow the pressure to get the better of us. We think we don’t have the time (let alone the desire) to take breaks, meditate, eat good food, get enough sleep, spend time with loved ones, and do things we enjoy. These are the only things we can have that can keep stress at bay. Yet, we blatantly dismiss them daily.

Here’s what you need to understand. Happiness is NOT the absence of problems, but rather, the ability to DEAL with them. Stress is subjective, and does NOT need to hold you prisoner. Yes, stress sucks. In fact, it’s extremely hazardous to your health. But…how can you make the transition into a stress-free lifestyle?

Here are a few tips you can start trying today:

  1. Visualize Success. Close your eyes. What does life look like on the other side of the problem? How does the resolution make you feel? Put yourself there. Enjoy it. Make it happen.
  2. ​Just like you shouldn’t shop when you’re hungry, you shouldn’t make big decisions when you’re sad. Both are recipes for disaster, and you will end up investing in more than you should! Your thoughts reflect your current frame of mind. If you’re happier, you’ll make better decisions. Period.
  3. One thing at a time. Attempting to tackle 1000 tasks at one time is dangerous. The last thing you want is a nervous breakdown. Prioritize your tasks, and work your way through them one by one. Don’t freak out. It will take a massive weight off your shoulders, mind, and life.​
  4. Remember: “This too shall pass.” Nothing lasts forever, and even if it seems like your problem has no finish line, it does. I promise.​
  5. Focus on what’s right, not what’s wrong. The glass is ALWAYS half full, but only if you allow it to be. When things are going wrong, it’s easy to forget what’s going right. Remind yourself that many other things are exactly the way they should be – no matter how small. Even if it’s the fact that you had a great shower this morning.
  6. Accept the things you do have control over, and the things you don’t. You can’t control everything. Even if you’re not in complete control of a situation, that’s fine. Focus on managing what IS in your control. Wasting time and energy on things you can’t control will only do more harm than good.
  7. ​Worrying won’t change anything. Simply put, those who live in the past, are sad. Those who live in the future, are anxious. Those who live in the present, are positive and content with what they have. Spending today complaining about yesterday won’t make tomorrow any brighter. Be the change you want to see in your life.
  8. Ask for help. You don’t need to endure this alone. There is always someone willing to lend a helping hand. Always. Trust others, and the rest will follow.
  9. You got this. A lack of confidence only strengthens stress. Remember – you got this – no matter how angry or frustrated you may feel.
  10. My happy ending awaits. No matter how bad the situation, you can be sure that at least ONE good thing will come of it. Even if it’s a simple life lesson, like not making the same mistake again. Everything happens for a reason, and when one door closes, another opens. Always.

Got some good headspace? Great. Now…

  1. Step back. Examine the situation as an outsider.
  2. Reevaluate your goals. Is what you thought was important, really that important?
  3. Take care of yourself. Eat an apple. Drink a smoothie. Meditate. Love yourself.
  4. Plan and attack. No moping allowed.
  5. Get a second opinion. Forget your ego, and embrace another perspective. You’d be surprised just how much it can do. There are no good or bad ideas. There are only ideas – subjectively analyzed by varying opinions.
“Believe you can, and you’re halfway there.”
T. Roosevelt.

What do you do when the going gets tough? Why not tell me in the comments or send me an email!

Claire Jung